How well do you know me? 75 questions for friends, family and partners
The game is simple: you answer questions about yourself in secret, everyone else guesses, and the person who knows you best wins. What makes it fun is the questions. Too easy and it is over in a minute; too personal and it gets awkward. The list below climbs from favorites anyone could guess to the deep cuts only your closest people know.
Playable example
The General Knowledge Gauntlet
Want a trivia round to play after the personal questions? This ten-question general-knowledge game opens from one link on any phone, with Roach as host.
How to play
You need a list of questions, something to write on, and ten minutes. It works in person, in a group chat, or on a video call.
Step 1
Pick 10 to 20 questions
Take a few from each group below so the game gets harder as it goes. Twenty questions is plenty for a party; ten is right for two people.
Step 2
Write your answers first
The person being guessed about writes down every answer before anyone else starts. This settles arguments later and stops you from changing your mind.
Step 3
Everyone guesses
Read each question aloud or send the list. Players write their guesses without talking to each other.
Step 4
Reveal and score
Go through the answers one by one. One point per correct guess, two for anything from the deep cuts. Highest score is officially your best friend — for tonight.
Questions 1–30
Warm-up: favorites, habits and quirks
Favorites (1–10)
1. What is my favorite food? · 2. What is my go-to drink order? · 3. What is my favorite movie? · 4. Which song would I pick for karaoke? · 5. What is my favorite season? · 6. What is my comfort TV show? · 7. What is my favorite dessert? · 8. What color do I wear most? · 9. What is my favorite way to spend a Saturday? · 10. Which snack would I choose at a gas station?
Habits (11–20)
11. Am I a morning person or a night owl? · 12. How do I take my coffee or tea? · 13. What do I always do when I get home? · 14. Which app do I open first in the morning? · 15. Am I always early, on time or late? · 16. How many alarms do I set? · 17. What do I order when I cannot decide? · 18. What is my go-to excuse for leaving a party? · 19. Do I read the ending of a book first? · 20. What do I do when I cannot sleep?
Quirks (21–30)
21. What is my strangest food combination? · 22. What is my biggest pet peeve? · 23. Which word do I say too often? · 24. What would I never eat? · 25. What am I weirdly good at? · 26. What small thing always makes my day? · 27. Which chore do I hate most? · 28. What do I collect, or wish I did? · 29. What makes me laugh every time? · 30. What is my irrational fear?
Questions 31–60
Middle rounds: memories, choices and this-or-that
Memories (31–40)
31. Where did we meet? · 32. What was my first job? · 33. What was my childhood nickname? · 34. What was my favorite toy as a kid? · 35. Which trip do I talk about most? · 36. What was my first concert? · 37. What is the best gift I ever received? · 38. What was my favorite subject in school? · 39. What is my most embarrassing moment I will admit to? · 40. What is the best meal I have ever had?
Would I rather (41–50)
41. Beach or mountains? · 42. Call or text? · 43. Cook or order in? · 44. Big party or small dinner? · 45. Be famous or be rich? · 46. Read the book or watch the movie? · 47. Travel to the past or the future? · 48. Sweet or salty? · 49. City apartment or country house? · 50. Plan everything or wing it?
Rapid fire (51–60)
51. Cats or dogs? · 52. Window or aisle? · 53. Shower morning or night? · 54. Pizza topping? · 55. Hot or cold weather? · 56. Early flight or red-eye? · 57. Board game or video game? · 58. Sunrise or sunset? · 59. Tea or coffee? · 60. Stairs or elevator?
Questions 61–75
Deep cuts: dreams, values and the stuff only your people know
Dreams (61–68)
61. Where would I live if I could live anywhere? · 62. What job would I do if money did not matter? · 63. What is on the top of my bucket list? · 64. Which skill do I most want to learn? · 65. What would I do with a free year? · 66. Which famous person would I most like to have dinner with? · 67. What would my dream weekend look like? · 68. What would I name a boat?
Values (69–75)
69. What am I most proud of? · 70. Who do I call first with good news? · 71. What do I value most in a friend? · 72. What is the best advice I have ever been given? · 73. What makes me feel most at home? · 74. What would I save in a fire, after people and pets? · 75. What is one thing I want to get better at this year?
Three ways to play it
For a birthday
Make the birthday person the subject and let the guests compete. Save the deep cuts for the end so the toast has something to build on.
For couples
Both partners answer about themselves, then swap and guess. For a longer list built for partners, see our couples quiz questions.
For a group chat
Post one question a day for a week and tally the points on Sunday. It keeps a quiet chat alive without anyone having to organize a call.
Make it a show
When you want more than a list
A list of questions is perfect for a night in. For a milestone — a big birthday, a farewell, a reunion — a hosted gameshow turns the same idea into an event. Trivana Moments builds a personal 10-question gameshow around the person you are celebrating: you share their interests, friends can add a memory or a well-wish, and you choose one of eight AI hosts to run it.
The questions fit the people playing, and you review everything before it is used. Play it together on a shared screen or over a call, or send it as a gift. It is $49, one-time.
Common questions
How do you play how well do you know me?
One person writes down their answers to a set of questions about themselves. Everyone else guesses the answers, and the player with the most correct guesses wins.
How many questions should a how well do you know me quiz have?
Ten questions is right for two people and twenty works well for a party. Start with easy favorites and finish with a few deep cuts so the game builds.
What are good questions to ask about yourself?
Mix favorites (food, films, songs), habits (morning or night person), memories (first job, childhood nickname) and a few deeper ones (proudest moment, dream job). The list above has 75, grouped from easy to deep.
Can I turn this into a hosted game for a birthday?
Yes. Trivana Moments makes a personal gameshow for a birthday or other celebration, with an AI host and optional memories from friends.
Add a trivia round to the night
After the personal questions, run a quick trivia round on anything the group loves — type a topic and get a playable game from one link, free to start.
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